30 and still not married? – Part 1

Marriage according to the Bible

To the world, marriage is seen as an institution through which the man and the woman come together to obtain a certain security. It is sometimes seen as a way to ensure administrative and financial stability. Marriage allows the couple to be legally protected if an accident happens. Usually, the union is not based on a common foundation or aim so when storms come, instead of persevering to save the marriage, divorce is the easiest solution. The public’s opinion estimates that it is more politically correct for a woman to get married before 30. If by after 30 years old, she is still not married, she will be seen as ‘bizarre’. The other day, I came across a Facebook post of a man who said that if a woman is 30 years old and not married, she has a problem and needs to question herself.

Yet, in no way does the word of God mention an ideal age, but instead how to prepare your mind’s state for this stage of life. Marriage, according to the Bible is a communion, the choice of one’s spouse is very important; it must be about values and a common faith. From then on, the couple forms one and the same body.

‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’ Genesis 2: 24 (NKJV)

Each individual has a different role, but both are complementary. They are a real team.

We do not have precise information about the age of the woman who got married in the Bible. Nevertheless, some indications in the Bible help us to discern their age ranges. In Genesis 24: 16 the scripture talks about Rebecca, Isaac’s future wife:

‘Now the young woman was very beautiful to behold, a virgin; no man had known her. And she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up.’

In the sentence, Rebecca is described with 3 adjectives: young, beautiful, virgin. So we can assume that she was in her early twenties.

The story of Ruth is different. Indeed, the Bible tells us that she had been married to one of Naomi’s sons for 10 years, which tells us that when Ruth married Boaz, she was probably no longer in her twenties but maybe in her late thirties.

 Then Elimelech, Naomi’s husband, died; and she was left, and her two sons. Now they took wives of the women of Moab: the name of the one was Orpah, and the name of the other Ruth. And they dwelt there about ten years.’ Ruth 1: 3-4 (NKJV)

God blessed these two women; they both had happy marriages regardless of the age they got married at.

Christian artists married after 30.

Several Christian artists found their soul mates in their thirties.

This is the case for Kari Jobe, who married at the age of 33 and Tasha Cobbs who married at age of 35. They both decided to put their trust in the Lord concerning the choice of their spouse and not to rush in spite of the passing years.

Both followed the ministry in which the Lord called them. They used their gifts as a service in the kingdom of God and the Lord honoured them by guiding them to their perfect spouse.

The similarities between these Christian artists are that they did not doubt the promise of God in their lives, but remained firm in the faith.

In an interview for a Christian channel, a journalist questioned Kari Jobe about her celibacy at an advanced age and her potential desire to marry. While quoting verse 14 of chapter 27 of the book of psalms

‘Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!’

,she proudly declared that God’s time is perfect and that whatever the age, she knows that marriage will come at the right time and that is exactly what happened.

You must know that the world will try to make you believe that this promise of God will never come. But do not forget that we are in this world, but we are not of this world. You must be firm in your faith towards the Lord.

‘He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God,’ Romans 4 :20 (NKJV)

How can the Lord, trust you and bless you with the wonders He has for you if you stumble with every obstacle? Be steadfast as Kari Jobe was and affirm that certainty that is in your heart. Meditate over the word day and night so that when you have moments of doubt, you can remember the promises of God in your life.

to be continued next week

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