30 and still not married – Part 2

From healing to marriage

Tasha Cobbs is amongst the greatest contemporary gospel artists, best known for her ‘Break Every Chain’ song, which won a Grammy Award for Best Gospel and Best Contemporary Christian Music Performance in 2014. While she continues to proclaim love and hope in Jesus, Tasha Cobbs went through a very difficult time. For several years she suffered from depression and in an interview with essence magazine, she explained how she finally managed to overcome it. It is obvious that during her depression, which happened when she was in her twenties, Tasha was not ready for marriage. Before thinking of uniting with someone else, she had to go through a process of reconstruction; she learned to value herself, to love herself and to accept herself as a creature of God. Indeed, no one can fully love their spouse if they do not love themselves first

‘And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.’ Mark 12: 31 (NKJV)

You must first love and be happy with yourself before you can love another person. Sometimes this period of rebuilding and healing may take some time, but no matter how long it takes, remember that God’s time is perfect. Maybe you are a certain age, and when thinking about marriage you are convinced that God has forgotten you. Believe that is not the case, but maybe like Tasha you need a time of reconstruction and our Father can help you to heal. Indeed, it is essential to heal the wounds of the past and to feel at peace with you, whole in Jesus before taking the step towards marriage. Why? Simply because, no man except God can bring you inner peace. If you wait to be with a man to be happy, you will never be, because every man is fallible, only the Lord is faithful. He is the only one who will bring you serenity and peace that no one can shake (check article What about me? ‘).

This is how two complete people delivered from the misdeeds of their past can unite to look together towards the future.
In 2017, at the age of 35, Tasha Cobbs married Kenneth Leonard, her long time friend. He is also her musical director; they work together and complement each other in both their private and professional life. It is important to choose a person who will work with you in your ministry, help you, guide you and even participate in it. It is important to note that Tasha did not stay waiting for her prince charming. She worked and followed her destiny and went into the ministry to which she was called to serve God in. And it was by exercising the will of God that she met her husband.

Build yourself, find out what God is calling you to do, be active, and do not wait to begin your life only when you will get married. Take advantage of this time to strengthen your relationship with God, and serve Him.

‘But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.’ 1 Corinthians 7: 32-33 (NKJV)

We serve a loving King, and He will guide you to your prince charming when you will be ready, no matter how old you are.

God Himself defines the wedding season in the life of each of us

To conclude God did not set an age to marry, humans have. Whether you are like Rebecca or Ruth, the most important thing is that you are ready for the marriage. You will be ready by abiding in the Lord.

Therefore, do not wait for your prince charming, but live a life with God and let yourself be guided by him. Let him strengthen you, heal you and teach you how to be a princess and the bride of Christ first, and then you will be ready to welcome your prince at the right time.

‘But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.’ Matthew 6: 33 (NKJV)

Stay blessed  🙂 

Daizy Xx

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